Quote of the day: SAFETY

SAFETY

The norms for eye contact vary all over the world. Eye contact isn’t always a positive thing. It can be threatening, too. When you’re feeling safe, eye contact can seem friendly, but without a sense of safety, it can be perceived as aggressive. There’s good evidence that people who are depressed, anxious, or lonely experience fewer feelings of safety around others, and that starts a downward spiral in which they cut themselves off because any interaction, to them, seems threatening. They may want to connect, but their actions don’t support that desire, which reinforces their loneliness. Mindfulness meditation – in which the meditator is simply present in the moment without judgment – may help you begin to see a safe situation for what it is, instead of projecting your negativity onto it. After you’ve deal with some of that initial negativity and are feeling safer, lovingkindness meditation might help you experience more warmheartedness.

— Barbara Frederickson interviewed in The Sun

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EVENTS: erotic massage class at MMX

THE ART OF EROTIC MASSAGE
A class for men led by Don Shewey at MMX (Male Massage Exchange) in New York City
Four evenings: June 12th, 19th, 26th, and July 10th
7:30 -10 pm.

In this series, you will learn the art, the technique, and the energy to give and receive a REAL Erotic Massage.

For some people, erotic massage is a shady step-brother to legitimate massage – some version of a half-assed backrub and a handjob. But there is a higher octave of erotic massage that can be a transformational experience. What makes an erotic massage extraordinary isn’t just the sensual bits but the acknowledgement of the whole person. It’s an opportunity to connect the dots between the physical and the emotional, the erotic and the spiritual.

In this four-part training with an erotic massage master, you will learn to give a full-body erotic massage that is skillful, pleasurable, energizing, and soul-nourishing.

June 12th:  WEEK 1 Simple Touch

Simple, nurturing touch is so important. Massage that includes genital touch plus breath plus presence feels like acceptance. Especially for gay men, it’s very meaningful to get permission and encouragement to receive pleasure, to feel your whole body, to speak desires, to bring consciousness to sex and touch, to live your spirituality without blocking your sexuality and vice versa, to be seen naked, to see another man naked. All these are opportunities to heal shame, isolation, erotic malnutrition, and touch deprivation.

This class will focus on some basic massage moves designed to put someone at ease, help him arrive in his body, and let go of stress and tension. We will work on the back, neck, shoulders, legs, and feet, not so much focused on the medical or sports massage fix-it model but more in the direction of pleasure, relaxation, and connection.

June 19th: WEEK 2 Tantric Massage

The essence of tantra has to do with understanding erotic interaction as a metaphor for union with the divine.

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The intention of tantric massage is to open the heart, to cultivate your own orgasmic capacity, and to experience sexuality as energy. This class will demonstrate and teach how to skillfully integrate touch, breath, and erotic energy into a full-body massage. You will get to observe and then practice giving and receiving a series of cock-massage strokes intended to raise and circulate erotic energy around the body so it’s a full-body experience, culminating in an exercise in conscious breathing called The Big Draw. You may be surprised to discover how pleasurable and nourishing it is to relish arousal without the goal of ejaculation.

June 26th:  WEEK 3 Butt Pleasure

Here’s one area of the body that is a major pleasure center for many guys but that traditional massage virtually never addresses. This class will provide a safe playground to explore the rich territory of pelvic massage, focusing on the buttocks, the anus, and the perineum for pleasure and relaxation. There will be a demonstration of the variety of ways to touch, knead, manipulate, and caress every part of a man’s rear end for pleasure and relaxation. The instruction will include “rosebud” massage (external) as well as sphincter and prostate stimulation (internal). You will have the opportunity to give and receive butt massage, at whatever pace and level you and your partner feel comfortable with (which may or may not include internal massage). You will get to practice not just the touch aspects but also how to verbally communicate with your partner about what feels good, what doesn’t, and what edges you’re willing to explore. We will use disposable gloves and observe hygiene protocols so the exploration will be completely safe for all participants. Discover the sometimes subtle delights available in the nether regions when the agenda is run by pleasure rather than the requirement of penetration.

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July 10th:  WEEK 4 Putting It All Together

What really makes an erotic massage satisfying is the full-body experience. In this session we will put together the pieces we learned and practiced in the earlier sessions, with some instruction and guidance in transitions. You will get the opportunity to give and receive a luscious full-body massage that includes erotic touch. Part of the practice involves tuning into the specific partner you’re with and tailoring your touch and your attention to his individual body and his pleasure.

The class is geared toward healthy holistic healers, trainers, dancers, and athletes – people who work with body and energy and are height/weight proportionate.

RATES:
$199
Discounts for under 30, premium members, and bodyworkers.
Questions or More Info:  mmxnyc@gmail.com