Detroit-based author and gay sex therapist Joe Kort wrote an interesting essay recently for The Huffington Post that should give comfort to gay guys who resist the pressure to fit themselves into only one of two categories sexually, top or bottom.
“What if a guy isn’t a top, a bottom or even versatile? What about gay men who have never engaged in anal sex and never will, ever? I think they deserve a name of their own. I call them “sides.” Sides prefer to kiss, hug and engage in oral sex, rimming, mutual masturbation and rubbing up and down on each other, to name just a few of the sexual activities they enjoy. These men enjoy practically every sexual practice aside from anal penetration of any kind. They may have tried it, and even performed it for some time, before they became aware that for them, it was simply not erotic and wasn’t getting any more so. Some may even enjoy receiving or giving anal stimulation with a finger, but nothing beyond that.”
You can read the whole article online here. Let me know what you think.